Well.... you may not like our answer but this will be resolved by early 2019, we hope.
If a male adds a second wife or more, the wives show left of his image and all's as it should be. But if a female adds a second husband, the second husband also shows up left of the male image and looks like it's connected to the male. The only way to tell it's not is a dotted line under the guy running to the wife. This is not acceptable and our developers are working to change it so that add'l husbands always show up to the right of the female. It still works in that clicking the circle to the right of the second husband brings up the wife and the joint couples account. But it's not as it should be for now. Please hang with us for a few months.